Do you really know who you’re marrying because if you don’t, then you might want to think about calling things off, at least for a little while.
You really need to know who you’re marrying because the last thing you want is to wed the wrong person. I mean you can’t possibly know everything about them, after all, they might not even know themselves (now that’s a scary thought). But, you can tell a lot about a person by going through some struggles together. Struggle is a great character reveler.
Here’s a few things to consider …
Happiness And Your Emotional Well-Being
The person you’re marrying should bring more happiness than sadness in your life. If your fiance’s moods, actions and behavior is erratic and unpredictable. This is not how things should be.
The right person should not be selfish, negative, critical or extremely judgmental. If you’re emotional well-being is not good around them, then you’re with the wrong person. Your relationship should be more positive than negative, so if you’re second-guessing your happiness and emotional well-being, then it’s time to reconsider things.
Affection and Intimacy
Affection and intimacy are crucial aspects of a successful marriage. The right person will be attentive to your wants and needs, which includes both intimacy and affection. If you feel that you’re giving much more affection and intimacy in the relationship, then you probably don’t know your partner as good as you think. You are probably under the assumption that you’re marrying the perfect person, but if they are selfish when it comes to your needs, then they are probably not going to change anytime soon.
The person you’re marrying should be polite and considerate. They should also do little things for you, such as holding the door open for you (if you’re a lady). Remember, it’s the little things that really count, especially in a marriage.
Communication and Trust
Finally, there’s trust and communication. If communication is a one-way street with your partner, then you don’t know them as good as you think they do. Not only that, but if you do not have 100% trust in your partner, then this is a bad sign. A healthy and successful marriage includes excellent communication between the couple, as well as trust.
If you’ve caught your partner in multiple lies, then you should reconsider marrying them. Even if they’ve lied about very small things. Remember, a marriage survives on trust and without that, then your marriage is doomed to fail at some point in the future.
Don’t Get Married Until You Ask / Discuss with Your Partner These Questions …
All too often, people think they know who they are marrying, and they eventually find out they didn’t. Keep this article in mind if you plan on getting married.